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Causes of Offense
Breaking the chains of offense can set you free!
A definition of
offense is an annoyance or resentment brought about by a perceived insult or
disregard for one’s standards or principals.
offense: annoyance, anger, resentment, indignation, irritation, wrath and displeasure.
Those who are easily offended are usually described as
“wounded, hurt, insulted, angry, or disappointed.” When someone gets offended, they take
everything personally. Scripture teaches however, if we keep our focus upon God
and His Word, He will maintain peace in our hearts that can withstand offense, “Great peace have those who love your law,
and nothing can make them stumble.” Psalm 119:165; “You will keep him in
perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”
There are Christians who are “touchy” or extremely
sensitive. They spend much of their time hurt or upset at people and at
circumstances. For these types of Christians, we should be patient and gentle
with them, encouraging them. There are reasons they are so sensitive, it could
be a past hurt or wound that has not been healed. Any wound or hurt that has
not been healed can cause a person to misinterpret others and their responses
to them. Sensitive feelings can be a way that Satan uses to oppress people.
This can be seen by people not experiencing joy or peace because of being
easily offended by others.
too much on self:
Hurt feelings and being easily offended usually has
something to do with self, such as, “I did not get my way or what I wanted.” We
must die to self, and become totally immersed in the identity of Jesus Christ.
When we die to self, we will become immune to offenses. Die to self-will that
demands justice for my rights that have been violated. Our heart attitudes must
be right when seeking a solution to our offense. We must approach the person
who offended us in meekness and humility.
People will fail us and they will disappoint us.
Expectations should not be placed upon humans, but Christ alone. Although
Christians are forgiven and have Christ living in them, they will sometimes
fail and make mistakes.
Many root causes of offense is the feeling of
entitlement. When someone disrespects you, you feel offended and feel the need
to “get back,” at them. Maybe someone hurt you from your past, and you feel
that you will never allow anyone to hurt you again or disrespect you.
ignored or overlooked:
If someone passed by you and did not say, “Hello,” or
they did not invite you to lunch. Or maybe you have been going though a trial
and no one seems to have noticed your plight or reached out to you.
Offenses left unrestrained can lead to bitterness,
anger, resentment, complaining, and murmuring. Offenses that are held onto to
can cause a Christian to be hindered in their spiritual growth, it can build
walls in relationships, can lead to potential sickness, and cause bondages in a
person’s life that can open the door to demonic strongholds such as
discouragement, fear, negative attitudes, critical spirit, and feelings of
rejection. When a Christian applies forgiveness, grace, and mercy it can remove
all offense and one can experience greater peace, joy, love, more openness in relationships,
and spiritual growth and maturity.
If we see or hear something in another Christian that
offends us, we should examine ourselves first. Since the faults we see in
others are usually the same ones we have ourselves, we should be careful when
correcting others. We need to be certain we have dealt with that problem in our
sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.
all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love,
eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:2-3
with our readers how you have overcome offense.
If you have been married for any length of time you
know that marriage is hard work. As with anything successful in your life
putting time and effort are keys to how fruitful those things will be.
you did not have the proper role models growing up to show you how to have a
successful marriage, but you desire to have a healthy marriage.
God has brought you together with your spouse the greatest investment that you
can make besides your relationship with God is your marriage.
Anyone can have a dull, lifeless marriage, but a marriage
that is thriving takes certain elements to help it succeed. If you planted some
flowers but forgot to fertilize and water those plants they would eventually
become lifeless and die. Healthy marriages take the time to nurture and weed
out anything hindering their relationship.
Couples striving for a healthy marriage should first
ask God to cleanse their hearts of any unforgiveness, anger, resentment or
offenses of their spouse. Staying angry or rese…
you focus on the most will grow. The enemy will try to get
you to focus on what is wrong, what is not working, and what is worrisome to
you. When you lose your focus on what is
true, what is right, what is lovely and what is a good report (Philippians
4:6), you will begin to focus on the opposite of these.
to focus on the good will be a daily decision. When the enemy shows
you something that is causing fear, worry or frustration, turn away and CHOOSE to focus on the good.
→If your focus has been more on the negative lately
check to see who you have been hanging out with, what you have been reading or
watching on TV, and giving your attention to the most.
→An unthankful heart can cause you to focus on your
wants, but a heart of gratitude will cause you to focus on your blessings.
Distractions come to sidetrack you and get you to
focus on what the enemy has brought in front of you. Keeping focus on Jesus means deliberately
fading out everything that pulls you away from the…