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What to Do When You Are Disappointed

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A relationship does not work out, a job does not go through, or your prodigal child that you have been praying for does not seem to leave their rebellious life. We all have experienced times of disappointment, and it is a normal part of life. What is important to know is that if disappointment is not dealt with, it can eventually lead to depression. This is a scheme from the enemy. Something you really wanted does not work out, you dwell on why it did not work out, and eventually you begin to feel depressed.

Your thoughts will always follow your behavior.
7 Things to do when you feel disappointed:
1.Consider that what may have not worked out could be God’s doing. Perhaps, He was protecting you from something you did not even know about. 2.Go before God and ask Him to help you deal with your disappointment, and to show you the truth. Ask God to show you His perspective on the situation. 3.Take every thought captive. Do not let your mind wander and think whatever it wants. When something dis…

Counselor's Corner: Breaking Old Habits and Forming New Habits

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I tried desperately to get up early each morning. I would set my alarm clack for 6 am and many mornings I would just reach over to my alarm clock on my cell phone and just turn it off, and then I would roll back into my comfy bed. No matter what I did, I could not get up consistently early, but I wanted to! Why was this so hard for me?


What is a habit? Habits are generally considered things that you do automatically when in a particular situation. A habit is something that has been learned through repeatedly performing an action.


Why is breaking an old habit hard?
To break a habit, you have to activate a different part of your brain to override those habitual tendencies. The problem is the part of the brain called prefrontal cortex is easily distracted and does not work as well when you are stressed, this is where those bad habits that are hardwired into your brain take over automatically. The new habit that you are trying to make can with time overwrite the old habit.


Before you try …

Counslor's Corner: Gaining Confidence for Spirtual Victory

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If you are trying to overcome some sort of battle in your life, gain freedom in an area in your life or are moving closer to God in any way-the enemy will try to defeat those attempts. How? By weakening your confidence.


You may have known for a while that you were suppose to take that bible study on getting free but as soon as you signed up for the class the enemy sent assaults to question if it was even possible to get free. You just knew God wanted you in that group on gaining freedom but somehow an unseen war has been waged. There may not be a Bible study that your struggling with attending but perhaps someone has made you feel not good enough, worthy enough or even condemned you in some way so that all you can now hear is the whisper of the enemy that you will not succeed. What is happening in the above scenarios and countless others, is a feeble attempt of the enemy to destroy your confidence so that you do not obey God and go forth with what God has told you to do.



When you lose…

Counselor's Corner: Resitance to Your Spiritual Freedom

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Perhaps you have decided to get closer to God, or maybe you are in the midst of overcoming an area of sin in your life and you have been met with spiritual resistance.


A definition of resistance is the act or power of opposing or withstanding.


You may feel pressed on every side and may even want to quit, but before you do let’s uncover some truths about resistance.


The enemy will ATTEMPT to oppose and resist your efforts to gain ground for the Kingdom of Christ.



Some sure signs to know the enemy is resisting you becoming free:


1.Intimidation and fear at every level.
2.Your past is dredged up and you begin to lose your confidence.
3.Attacks with your physical health and in your mind.
4.Distractions and “little” annoyances.
5.Feel strongly that you will not be able to change and that things will remain the same.


When the enemy senses an increased anointing coming into a person’s life, he gets terrified because of the damage that will be done to his kingdom.


In the Bible, David in 2 Samuel had be…

Counselor's Corner: Are You Waiting for God to Vindicate You?

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As a believer in Christ one of the most hurtful experiences you can have is when you are misjudged, slandered, falsely accused, or rejected. The pain of these experiences is deeper if they happen with a loved one. When you take a stand for truth or start living for God instead of pleasing man, don’t be surprised who attacks you. Your flesh may want to vindicate itself, and prove that you are wrongly being misinterpreted.


Jesus did say to, “Turn the other cheek and forgive 70x7,” but what about when you keep getting mistreated by the same person? Stepping aside and allowing God to vindicate you would be your best outcome for this situation. Jesus in no way wants you continually wounded, inflicted by another’s wrath, manipulated, controlled or abused (verbal or physical).


Reflect and ponder: You could be at a crossroads in your life-you have tried to build bridges of reconciliation and offer open and honest communication with others who have mistreated you, but the person or people who …

Counselor's Corner: Why Routine and Structure Are Good For You

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When you are needing to get something accomplished, set a goal, or make progress in an area of your life; routine and structure will be important.
Let’s look at a definition of routine: A regular way of doing things in a particular order.
►Routine builds perseverance.
Why do you need perseverance? Perseverance builds persistence in a steady course of action, especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles or discouragement.
Whenever you set out to accomplish tasks, in particular achieving goals you will be excited in the beginning. Anything new can be exciting, but when the emotional high leaves after you realize the goal you made is not as thrilling as actually making the goal.
Setting your mind to get something accomplished is only the first step

The stage after you decide to set a goal or accomplish a task and before your goal is achieved, there is the “in-between” stage. This stage is where routine and structure will be important. Doing the same thing over and over again may sound …

Counselor's Corner: Why We Don't Like Disappointing Others

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Since I was a little girl I always wanted to please the adults in my life, as I grew older that really did not change much. I do not like letting people down or having to tell anyone, “No.” I fear that that person will get mad at me and think less than positive things about me. I have gotten better over the years of telling others, “No,” but sometimes it still bothers me to tell someone,” I am not able to do that at this time.”
Where does this root of people-pleasing stem from? Insecurity, having a lack of personal boundaries, and the fear of man (caring too much what others think).

But I’m learning IT IS OKAY to disappoint others. When we fail to recognize that we will disappoint others and that is okay, it can lead to stress, fear and worry. We must get comfortable with letting others down. We must be tuned-in to the Holy Spirit so that He can let us know if we are to go here or there. Oftentimes, the Holy Spirit does not speak anything direct to our spiritsbut we have a deep inner “…

Counselor's Corner: When the Enemy Tempts You to Go Back

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When you have been making progress towards your walk with God or your destiny, the enemy oftentimes sends reminders of your past in hopes you will long for those times again. The enemy will not remind you of how awful living in sin was but will remind you of the glamorous times you had with sin. When you live a sinful lifestyle all of it is not bad, in fact some of the time it can be exciting and pleasurable.


Sin always reveals its dark nature. Give it enough time and sin will show its destructive side.


If you leave any “crack” open to your sinful past the enemy will come to see if he can gain full entrance back into your life. That is why you must shut the door and keep it locked from the things that kept you in bondage before. If you used to have a gambling addiction and have been set free from gambling, then going into a casino would be that “shut door” you would want to maintain. If you lived a lifestyle of debauchery then hanging out in a bar now would be a “shut and locked door.”