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What to Do When You Are Disappointed

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A relationship does not work out, a job does not go through, or your prodigal child that you have been praying for does not seem to leave their rebellious life. We all have experienced times of disappointment, and it is a normal part of life. What is important to know is that if disappointment is not dealt with, it can eventually lead to depression. This is a scheme from the enemy. Something you really wanted does not work out, you dwell on why it did not work out, and eventually you begin to feel depressed.

Your thoughts will always follow your behavior.
7 Things to do when you feel disappointed:
1.Consider that what may have not worked out could be God’s doing. Perhaps, He was protecting you from something you did not even know about. 2.Go before God and ask Him to help you deal with your disappointment, and to show you the truth. Ask God to show you His perspective on the situation. 3.Take every thought captive. Do not let your mind wander and think whatever it wants. When something dis…

Are You Led By Guilt, People-Pleasing or By God?

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Do you say, “Yes,” to people when you don’t feel that you have the time or the peace about doing whatever they asked of you? Are you lead by guilt, people-pleasing or by God?


Without being led by the Holy Spirit, we can do things we are not supposed to.


The enemy loves when we stay distracted and busy doing and going. I believe busyness is straight from the enemy. If you are a people-pleaser or need people approval it is very likely you will please man rather than being led by what the Holy Spirit wants. It feels better to our flesh to go along with what everyone else is doing.


Just because something seems rightto do, does not mean that it is!



We can wear ourselves out by agreeing to do everythingthat comes into our path.There are certain things we are not to be involved with even if it seems good and right. The Holy Spirit knows what is best for us, and what we can handle.


Reflect: Do you tend to make decisions or agree to do something because everyone else is going along but you alre…

Counselor's Corner: How to Deal With Toxic Family

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Families are supposed to be a place of support, love, and acceptance. Sometimes, however, family relationships can be the place where we experience the deepest hurt.
As a Christian, you want to do the right thing and respond Biblically to your toxic family but it seems no matter have much you give or turn the other check, the situation does not change.
Sometimes we can spend years sacrificing our mental and spiritual health in harmful relationships under the notion that we have to because they are family.
It is common for people with toxic behavior to create drama or be surrounded by it; try and manipulate others or control others; be needy; and use others to meet their needs.

Traits of a toxic person: 1.Are abusive mentally, physically, sexually, or emotionally. When a relationship is based on manipulation, overt or covert; abuse is happening! 2.The only contact you have with them is negative, or you get anxious of the thought of an encounter with them. 3.The relationship creates so muc…

Counselor's Corner: When You Feel Pressure

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Pressure means to squeeze out or to apply a weighton something.


There is good pressure and there is bad pressure. Good pressure causes you to move, change, or to grow for the better, such as the pressure you feel when you are in college. Bad pressure usually comes straight from the kingdom of darkness, and causes you to feel like you are going to snap, such as when you are dealing with the burdens of others because they don’t carry their own weight.


Pressure that comes from the enemy will wear you down until you break or give intosin.



Signs that the pressure you are experiencing is from the enemy:
1)You are not sleeping well, and perhaps having nightmares.
2)You do not feel at peace, maybe restless even.
3)Headaches that are unusual and/or fatigue, or feeling unwell.
4)You have “brain fog” and cannot concentrate or stay focused.
5)Feeling “off” but can’t put your finger on why.


·If most of the above symptoms occur with added outside annoyances, distractions, and concerning situations that…

Where Has Your Focus Been Lately?

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What you focus on the most will grow.



The enemy will try to get you to focus on what is wrong, what is not working, and what is worrisome to you. When you lose your focus on what is true, what is right, what is lovely and what is a good report (Philippians 4:6), you will begin to focus on the opposite of these.


CHOOSING to focus on the good will be a daily decision. When the enemy shows you something that is causing fear, worry or frustration, turn away and CHOOSE to focus on the good.


→If your focus has been more on the negative lately check to see who you have been hanging out with, what you have been reading or watching on TV, and giving your attention to the most.


→An unthankful heart can cause you to focus on your wants, but a heart of gratitude will cause you to focus on your blessings.


Distractions come to sidetrack you and get you to focus on what the enemy has brought in front of you. Keeping your focus on Jesus means deliberately fading out everything that pulls you away from…

Counselor's Corner: Is It Selfish to Take Some Time for Yourself?

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People who are overworked, overwhelmed, or over-burdened need times where they can have a stress-free zone and enjoy the simple pleasures in life. God never intended for anyone to live under constant strain from the pressures of life. Living in a constant strain will break the strongest of people.


You may know you need some time to pull away from the pressures of life by the following signs:


·Restlessness/mind-racing
·Fatigue
·Negative thinking
·Anxiety
·Discouragement
·Headaches
·Gastrointestinal problems
·Forgetfulness
·Lack of joy
·Inability to laugh
·Not able to enjoy the simple pleasures in life
·Low or no libido
·Little or no motivation
·Productivity at work suffers
·Difficulty getting up in the morning
·Difficulty staying or falling asleep
·Take life too seriously
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Counselor's Corner: Getting Entagled in Other People's Problems

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Should we ignore other people’s plights? Absolutely not! There are occasions that we should step-in and intervene when someone is having trouble whether financial, emotional or spiritual. When the Holy Spirit directs you to help a person in need you will have clear direction, clarity and peace. You will also have an inner knowing or a nudge deep down inside that lets you know it is okay to give your time, talent or treasures. You will not have to figure out how you are going to help or solve someone else’s dilemma because the Holy Spirit will show you their need and how you can go about meeting that need.


What happens when you are not lead by God to give or help someone, and is this even possible for a Christian not to help someone in need?



First, let’s define a true need versus those who do not want to take full responsibility for their lives. We all have needs from time to time, and as Christians there is a great joy to give to those in need. There are times when people get “down on…

Counselor's Corner: Freedoom from Being Manipulated by Your Loved Ones

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Have you felt the pressure of guilt from your loved ones when they indirectly ask you to fulfill an unspoken request? You know that your loved one is hinting around for you to help them, but their language is twisted in confusion and half-truths so that you will be the one that has the “bright idea” how to solve their dilemma and they appear to be the helpless victim.


Codependent people can be easily manipulated and often times are, mainly because of their strong desire to recuse and fix other’s problems. Your loved ones that manipulate know your tender and merciful heart and will try and take advantage of that. Being a kind and generous person is great, but also being wise to when you are being taken advantage of is just as important. Jesus did not repeatedly help and rescue the same people, He helped once and then moved on to others. If your loved ones are needing repeated recusing, it is time to reevaluate your part.



Not sure if your loved one is manipulating you, these are some cl…