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What to Do When You Are Disappointed

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A relationship does not work out, a job does not go through, or your prodigal child that you have been praying for does not seem to leave their rebellious life. We all have experienced times of disappointment, and it is a normal part of life. What is important to know is that if disappointment is not dealt with, it can eventually lead to depression. This is a scheme from the enemy. Something you really wanted does not work out, you dwell on why it did not work out, and eventually you begin to feel depressed.

Your thoughts will always follow your behavior.
7 Things to do when you feel disappointed:
1.Consider that what may have not worked out could be God’s doing. Perhaps, He was protecting you from something you did not even know about. 2.Go before God and ask Him to help you deal with your disappointment, and to show you the truth. Ask God to show you His perspective on the situation. 3.Take every thought captive. Do not let your mind wander and think whatever it wants. When something dis…

Counselor's Corner: What to Do if You Are Stuck in a Rut?

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I thrive on routine and structure, but sometimes I find myself getting stuck in a rut doing the same things over and over again. Once you get stuck in a rut, it can be difficult to change because we are creatures of habit. If you are type-A like I am, any change from the “schedule” can be disruptive. When we live doing the same thing week after week, life becomes stale and boring. Sometimes, we need to change things up a bit to get the zest back in life. Relax, type-A’s I know just the thought of too much change can cause hysteria, but a few minor changes you can manage.


“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.”
-Albert Einstein



There are times we can get stuck in a rut because we fear change. We don’t want to go back but we don’t want to go forward either, so we keep doing the same old things hoping for something different. Ruts are familiar and predictable. You may not like what you are getting, but at least you know what you…

Living Again After Pain and Loss

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In 2017, I had several losses within an 11-month period, my grandmother, grandfather and uncle all passed away. I was not close to any of them, but I did reconnect to my grandmother and grandfather towards the end of their lives. I walked through these difficult times with my mother who endured the losses of both her parents and brother, and subsequently the death of one of her best friends (a family friend also). Before my grandparents and my mom’s friend passed away, there was the visits to the nursing home and hospitals and the “wait” for the dreaded phone calls. My uncle was found living in his car before an aneurism took his life. My uncle had been a drug user for the last several decades, so we were not sure exactly what the main cause of death was for him. During this time, I was also estranged from my prodigal child and had not spoken or seen him in months. This just added to the already devastations my family was facing. As a way to cope with all the pain, I begin to go “numb…

Week 3: Balancing Hormones Naturally: What You Need to Know About Pesticides and Your Hormones

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*If you have not had a chance to read my previous articles on diet and hormones and how stressaffects your hormones, click the links to read these articles.


Common household products like detergents, disinfectants, plastics and pesticides contain chemical ingredients that enter our bodies and disrupt hormones. Known as endocrine disruptors, these chemicals will interact with the endocrine system. Endocrine disruptors function by mimicking the action of a naturally-produced hormone such as estrogen or testosterone by blocking hormone receptors in cells, and by affecting the synthesis, transport, metabolism and excretion of hormones.


Endocrine disruptors have been linked to attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s, diabetes, cardiovascular disease, early puberty and infertility.


Beyond Pesticides recommends avoiding pesticides, but those particularly linked to endocrine disruptors. Eat organic food, fruits and vegetables as much as possible, and do not use…

Does God Wnat Me to Enjoy Life?

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Far too many people struggle with enjoying their lives. You may be one of those people who does not know how God would like you to enjoy life. I know I have struggled enjoying life and how God wants me to enjoy life, but I am learning and I hope you will too.


God does want us to enjoy life! He does not want us to be discouraged, defeated, depressed and lacking. Oftentimes, our circumstances cause us to lose our zest for life, and we become consumed by how large our problems appear. There are other times we exhaust ourselves copying what other people are doing, whether it is serving in the church or trying to “keep up with the Joneses.” We all go through challenging seasons that can zap our enjoyment of life, but we should not remain in this continual state. Depression whether medical or spiritual can cause you to not enjoy life, but with proper care such as with prayer, dietary changes, exercise, and/or supplements to treat the causes of depression, you should begin to enjoy life once…

Treating Hormonal Imbalance in Women Naturally

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What to Do When You Have Difficulty Trusting God

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This a difficult topic to discuss, but I believe it is one that many people struggle with, and do not discuss.
If we can be honest there are times that we just do not understand God’s ways, timing, or plans. This can particularly be true if you have undergone a traumatic event, have experienced afflictions like Job in the Bible, or have been waiting for promises to be fulfilled in your life. Sometimes the very thing we have been praying for and desiring, we can see other people with those very things, and wonder why God has not answered our prayers. To hear someone say, “Thank God, He has finally answered my prayers,” can be difficult for someone to hear who is still waiting for God to come through for them. It can be easy to be cynical and even at times jealous of others who do get what they have prayed for.

We can hear our inner voice say, “Why not me?” Then of course, we get upset at ourselves for even thinking such thoughts. We want to trust God, but sometimes it seems like He is n…

Causes and Consequences of Stress and 16 Healthy Ways to Reduce Stress

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Stress can be defined as a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.
Stress is not always bad, but when it becomes overwhelming it can affect your health, your mood, your productivity, and your hormones and your relationships. Since our bodies do not distinguish between daily stressors and traumatic life events, your body will still react to daily stressors as if you are facing a life and death situation. When you face repeatedly stressful events, it can increase your blood pressure, put you at risk for heart attack or stroke, lowers your immune system, and can lead to irregular menstrual cycles in women.
Everyone experiences stress differently. What may cause stress in one person’s life, may not cause any stress in another person’s life. Your ability to tolerate stress depends on many factors such as a supportive network (family and friends), your attitude and outlook, and knowledge about the stressful situation (such as how …