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What to Do When You Are Disappointed

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A relationship does not work out, a job does not go through, or your prodigal child that you have been praying for does not seem to leave their rebellious life. We all have experienced times of disappointment, and it is a normal part of life. What is important to know is that if disappointment is not dealt with, it can eventually lead to depression. This is a scheme from the enemy. Something you really wanted does not work out, you dwell on why it did not work out, and eventually you begin to feel depressed.

Your thoughts will always follow your behavior.
7 Things to do when you feel disappointed:
1.Consider that what may have not worked out could be God’s doing. Perhaps, He was protecting you from something you did not even know about. 2.Go before God and ask Him to help you deal with your disappointment, and to show you the truth. Ask God to show you His perspective on the situation. 3.Take every thought captive. Do not let your mind wander and think whatever it wants. When something dis…

Moving Forward as Oppsostion Comes

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Have you noticed when you decide to make a change in the right direction for God, opposition comes right after to hinder what you are trying to do?


The enemy will oppose you or bring trouble in the beginning of moving in the direction that God has for you. Sometimes the opposition is an all-out attack in just about every area of your life. An onslaught of attacks is sent in hopes that you will cower down in defeat, despair, and eventually turn-back. The name “Satan” means adversary, and he is committed along with his dominions to oppose God and His people, especially those who are stand for truth. As long as you live in one foot in the world and live for the world’s values, Satan won’t bother you. You can go to church, and Satan does not mind that, but when you get up from your spiritual slumber and commit yourself to radical obedience to Jesus Christ and His Word, spiritual opposition comes to test you.


We are in a real, spiritual battle. In 2 Corinthians 10:3-5, Paul specifies that b…

Freedom From False Guilt that Occurs with Codependency

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False guilt tells you that you have done something wrong when you havenot.


Codependents have internalized shame, which fosters a guilty conscience when they are not able to fulfill others needs. Codependents are especially hard on themselves and tend to feel guilty when they are not able to meet everyone’s demands. Codependents are easily manipulated and receive the blame from other people for not complying with their wishes. Codependents are usually the ones who say that they are sorry and try to make peace in order to avoid other’s being upset or disappointed with them.


Codependents feel guilty for not doing enough or giving enough. Codependents usually are connected to relationships that are unhealthy and that foster enabling type of behaviors. Codependents rarely feel free to say, “No,” and when they do they are loaded down with guilt. Codependents often hear internal statements such as, “you should be, you ought to, you need to, and/or you could have.”


Many codependents will go to…

How to Get a Different Perspective in a Difficult Circumstance

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What are you choosing to magnify in your life? Does everything around you seem heavy, weighted, or stressful? Have you believed the enemy’s lies that tell you things like, “it will always be this way,” or “this problem will never end?” Chances are if you are magnifying the stressors in your life or challenging circumstances, you have believed the lies of the enemy that speak words of defeat. You just might need a new perspective. When you encounter challenging circumstances, the enemy is right there ready to whisper lies that God is not good, God does not care or the trial that your going through will never end.


A definition of perspective is a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.



Ways to change your perspective:


1.Choose thankfulness over complaining and grumbling. Look for your blessings and speak them out or write out your blessings. Don’t just focus on the injustices and suffering in your life but choose to magnify what is going right.


2.Meditat…

Word of Encouragement: Laying Aside Every Weight that Troubles You

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Let us lay aside every weight. Hebrews 12:1
Dictionary.com defines weight as the amount or quantity of heaviness or mass; amount a thing weighs.
What are you carrying that is weighing you down and troubling your heart? A wayward child, difficulty on the job, or a loveless marriage.

We all have troubling circumstances, but we can run into trouble when we begin to bear the heaviness of these burdens. There are times that we can focus solely on our problems and not lay them down for Jesus to carry. If our thoughts are kept on the distressing circumstance we can lose our joy and peace as well as suffer a host of physical and emotional problems.
“Laying aside” is a powerful command that changes our perspective. When you lay something aside it is still there but you don’t focus on it.
Reflect: Are you fretting, worrying, or over-analyzing your problems? What heavy burdens do you need to lay down?

Counselor's Corner: What Does It Mean to Quiet Your Soul?

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Our minds can get cluttered and contaminated with worries, frustrations, and stressors. When our minds become disturbed with the negative and what all is wrong or could go wrong, we become anxious and fearful. An anxious and fearful mind leads to unrest or a feeling of uneasiness.


With all the negative clatter that comes to us through people, circumstances, and even the news; we need time to quiet our souls. Our minds were not created to deal with the constant stress and negativity that is all around, we were meant to live in peace and harmony. Sometimes in life our peace can be affected if we don’t take the time to align ourselves with stillness. Stillness can be a foreign concept to our busy and fast-paced way of living, but stillness before the Lord is not only soothing to our souls but it quiets our alarming thoughts.



→Quieting your soul is especially important if you have been feeling the stress and strains of life and feel that you are more irritable, aggravated, or tense.


→Quiet…

Counselor's Corner: Focus on What You Are Doing Right

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Are the thoughts about yourself centered on what you are doing right more or on what you are doing wrong more? Do you tend to focus on your failures instead of any progress that you have made?


→Choose to magnify your progress not failures. Choose to magnify your strengths not your weaknesses.

Focus can be defined as what you concentrate on the most or the center of your attention. 



We all have faults, weaknesses, and have made mistakes. The problem is when the enemy places a magnifying glass over each one of your weaknesses, and your focus becomes distorted and all you can see are the negative aspects about yourself.


Focusing on your deficits can cause discouragement, defeat, and depression.


Focusing too long on what is wrong with you can cause you to shrink back and not go forward, and this is exactly where the enemy wants you-stuck in the past and living in defeat of your past mistakes.


If God has forgiven your sins, He does not keep reminding you of your failures.


The enemy will atte…

Counselor's Corner: What to Do if You Are Stuck in a Rut?

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I thrive on routine and structure, but sometimes I find myself getting stuck in a rut doing the same things over and over again. Once you get stuck in a rut, it can be difficult to change because we are creatures of habit. If you are type-A like I am, any change from the “schedule” can be disruptive. When we live doing the same thing week after week, life becomes stale and boring. Sometimes, we need to change things up a bit to get the zest back in life. Relax, type-A’s I know just the thought of too much change can cause hysteria, but a few minor changes you can manage.


“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.”
-Albert Einstein



There are times we can get stuck in a rut because we fear change. We don’t want to go back but we don’t want to go forward either, so we keep doing the same old things hoping for something different. Ruts are familiar and predictable. You may not like what you are getting, but at least you know what you…