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Don't Complain About Your Circumstances

Don’t Complain About Your Circumstances

In my new book, Wilderness Mentality, I discuss why complaining and lack of thankfulness will keep you in the wilderness mentality. A wilderness mentality is dry, barren, and not producing any “good fruit.” We will stay in the wilderness as long as we complain. If we complain we will remain.

Reasons we complain and lack thankfulness:
1.      We think we deserve better, more.
2.      We compare our lives to others.
3.      We believe life is not fair and should meet all of our needs.
4.      Unmet expectations and needs.
5.      Difficult trials and circumstances that we are not walking in faith about.

When we complain the enemy takes notice and hears us. It is music to the enemy’s ears when we complain, but when we offer praise and thanksgiving to God that is music to God’s ears. You may not understand all of your trials, but God wants us to trust Him with each one.

For God works ALL things out for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purposes. Romans 8:28

You might say, “I don’t have anything to thank God for.” Really? Stop right now and list 5 things that you have to be thankful for. Everyday write down 5 things to be thankful for until you are conditioned to count your blessings and be thankful.

…Nor complain, as some of them also complained, and were destroyed by the destroyer.
1 Corinthians 10:10.  Read 1 Corinthians 10:1-11.

Complaining is negative and it will drain your physical and mental energy. Discipline your mind not to react to your circumstances. Remember complain and remain or praise and be raised!

Now when the people complained, it displeased the Lord; for the Lord heard it, and His anger was aroused.  Numbers 11:1

The Israelites in this passage complained and then Moses complained. But God responded positively to Moses and negatively to the rest of the people, because the people complained to one another, and nothing was accomplished. Moses, however, took his complaints to God directly who could solve his problems. Many of us are good at complaining to one another, but we need to learn to take our problems to the One who can do something about it.

Who do you complain to, friends, family, strangers, your spouse? Or do you complain to the One who can raise you?

The Israelites were dissatisfied with God’s provision for them. Dissatisfaction comes when our attention shifts from what we have to what we don’t have. The people of Israel did not seem to notice what God was doing for them. Do you notice what God is doing for you, or are you dissatisfied and a complainer?

Make a change today!

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