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Prodigal parents at Christmas
Prodigal parents, PRAYER is your best defense!
Christmas time is supposed to be the most wonder time
of year, right? Sure, it is but as prodigal parents we often feel the sting of
exposed and raw emotions at Christmas. We are surrounded by happy families at
church singing Christmas carols that remind of us that are loved one is not
with us. If I can admit something, going to church this time of year is hard
for me. I love Jesus and I do enjoy going to church, but certain times of the
year are hard for me to attend such as Christmas and Mother’s Day. It is a
reminder to me of what is missing in my life. I know we are not supposed to
attend church for those reasons, but I cannot help that my heart is somewhere
else during these times. I have a momma’s heart, and when I do not know where
my child is or when or if I will speak to him, it makes it a little difficult
a smiling face and walk through the church doors. I go masking my pain, but
secretly I want someone to ask me, “Are you okay?” Sometimes I wish others knew
what I needed, but that would make them mind readers, but seriously I want
someone to reach out to me during this time and just ask me, “Can I pray with
you or how are you coping with the holidays?” I think having a prodigal scares
people off for some reason, or at least that is what happens to me. Maybe they
think they will “catch it” too, like it is a disease or something.
I have learned to not have expectations in others, but
to place ALL my hope in Jesus; not people. People will disappoint you! If you
are reading this and you know someone who has a prodigal child do not be afraid
to reach out to them, call them and offer prayer. Prayer is what a prodigal
parent needs most, and you can even just send a text or an email to say that
you are praying for them. But the reality is most of the time prodigal parents
feel alone, ashamed, embarrassed, and fearful others are in judgement of them.
Many prodigal parents isolate themselves because they do not feel they have
anyone that can relate to them, or simply others do not make the effort to
reach out to them. Yes, I believe we should help the homeless, the orphans, the
widows but I always believe God cares about ALL the hurting people and that
includes prodigal parents. I know this time of year can be especially difficult
on prodigal parents. We simply may not feel festive, but we can still have joy
that comes from Christ.
As I write this, I am not sure if I will see my
prodigal for Christmas. All the unknowns of having a prodigal. I want so badly
to start Christmas shopping for him, but what do you buy a prodigal who is in
the “pigpen?” Oh, but a momma’s heart so wants to buy him all the gifts I
believe will make things all better. You see I did that before, last Christmas
I bought him so many wonderful gifts and now I cannot even tell you where they
are at. He recently moved and I do not even have an address for him to send a
Christmas card. In my mind, I believed this Christmas would be different, but I
say that every year. I just want to be normal and have a normal family, but
what is normal? I know I sound like a spoiled child, but I want grandbabies to
rock and to pass my faith to. I want, I want, but what does God want? He wants
me to surrender ALL to Him, and trust Him through it all. He wants me to cleave
to Him when I feel let down and abandoned by others. He wants me not to try and
figure out when my son will come home or how. These are some pretty dark days,
and all nuggets of hope for my son are no longer there; but I will CHOOSE to
live by faith not by my sight. It looks not so good for my son right now, and
this momma hurts for the consequences of his choices. But now this season for
me is about letting go. I can no longer bail him out, give him unsolicited
advice or counsel, or anything like. Why? Because it has fallen on hard soil. I
need a miracle! I need a Christmas miracle just like the birth of Jesus Christ
was. All of my efforts are useless and my strength in this battle has ended. I
understand that I have to fully let God deal with my son. Painful? Yes.
No matter if you have been waiting for your prodigal
child a year or twenty, it is still one of the most difficult encounters you
can experience. It will test your faith and bring you to your knees more than
anything else. You will fight against bitterness, anger, unforgiveness,
jealously, doubt, depression, despair, and weariness. You will feel
misunderstood and will be rejected by many (even Christians!). What a journey
you might say, but what can God do through our pain? Can He use it for good? He
tells us in His word that He will, “God
works out ALL things for good for those who love Him and are called according
to His purposes.” Romans 8:28
Just yesterday, I had a friend call me to tell me she
is,” SO hopeful for my son.” I REALLY needed to hear that. Please, reach out to
prodigal parents especially during this time of year. If you are a prodigal parent and you feel alone or need prayer and encouragement,
send me an email: HopeandEncouragement4Women@gmail.com
If you have been married for any length of time you
know that marriage is hard work. As with anything successful in your life
putting time and effort are keys to how fruitful those things will be.
you did not have the proper role models growing up to show you how to have a
successful marriage, but you desire to have a healthy marriage.
God has brought you together with your spouse the greatest investment that you
can make besides your relationship with God is your marriage.
Anyone can have a dull, lifeless marriage, but a marriage
that is thriving takes certain elements to help it succeed. If you planted some
flowers but forgot to fertilize and water those plants they would eventually
become lifeless and die. Healthy marriages take the time to nurture and weed
out anything hindering their relationship.
Couples striving for a healthy marriage should first
ask God to cleanse their hearts of any unforgiveness, anger, resentment or
offenses of their spouse. Staying angry or rese…
you focus on the most will grow. The enemy will try to get
you to focus on what is wrong, what is not working, and what is worrisome to
you. When you lose your focus on what is
true, what is right, what is lovely and what is a good report (Philippians
4:6), you will begin to focus on the opposite of these.
to focus on the good will be a daily decision. When the enemy shows
you something that is causing fear, worry or frustration, turn away and CHOOSE to focus on the good.
→If your focus has been more on the negative lately
check to see who you have been hanging out with, what you have been reading or
watching on TV, and giving your attention to the most.
→An unthankful heart can cause you to focus on your
wants, but a heart of gratitude will cause you to focus on your blessings.
Distractions come to sidetrack you and get you to
focus on what the enemy has brought in front of you. Keeping focus on Jesus means deliberately
fading out everything that pulls you away from the…