You are with yourself
more than anyone else, so getting to like yourself is important if you want to
enjoy life.
Enjoying life will be most difficult if you think
negative thoughts about yourself. What you think about yourself will affect how
you experience life. You may think good thoughts about other people (and that
is good), but if you think destructive thoughts about yourself, it will be
almost impossible to enjoy these relationships. In fact, many people who do not
like themselves will have a hard time being in a relationship with others.
►Take a
few moments and ask yourself honestly, what
kind of relationship do you have with yourself? If possible journal or
write out your answers.
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| Do you like being you? |
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Do you enjoy your company?
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What thoughts run through your mind about
yourself? What is your internal dialogue mostly like about yourself?
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Do you beat yourself up for your mistakes
and weaknesses?
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Are you overly critical of yourself?
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Do you laugh often and at yourself?
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Do
you take good care of yourself and treat yourself to the things you enjoy?
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Are you concerned what others think of
you?
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Do you compare yourself to other people?
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Are you proud of your achievements and accomplishments?
Do you celebrate your victories?
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Do you tend to think the worst not the
best about yourself?
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Are you your worst-own critic?
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Can you name or discuss what you do like
about yourself?
Let’s explore some reasons why you may
think negatively towards yourself…
1.
Negative,
critical, upbringing.
2.
Any
type of rejection in a relationship.
3.
Low
self-esteem that could be a result of abuse, rejection, betrayal, and/or
repeated failures in life.
4.
Believed
the lie that God is punishing you or that you are not blessed like other people
that you know.
5.
Others
have spoken negatively about you and you believed what they said about you.
6.
Not
able to see yourself the way God sees you, instead you magnify your faults and
weaknesses. Have trouble believing God really does love you.
List
any others reasons you may know of.
Now let’s explore some truths to help
you enjoy being in a relationship with you…
1. No
one is perfect! You might have some weaknesses, faults and even some sins that
you do want but they are a part of you for now. You are not just your
weaknesses and sins but you have many other positive qualities that are
greater.
2. There
is goodness in you and you are capable of being loved and giving love. You may
have been wounded in the past and that keeps you from fully loving yourself and
others, but you can start by loving you first.
3. Not
everyone will accept or like you, and that is OKAY! You can do everything right
to gain a person’s approval and they still won’t like you. Stop today trying to
prove yourself and worth to others, love yourself enough to move on to others
who are capable of loving you the way that you deserve.
4. Having
a good relationship with yourself starts with your thoughts about yourself. You have to retrain your thinking to begin
thinking good thoughts about yourself, even if you don’t initially feel those thoughts about yourself.
→For additional tools to help you
discipline your thought life so that you can begin to think differently about
yourself, check out my book, “Disciplining
your mind 30 days to a better you!”
5. Learn
to treat yourself good and be okay with that! Treat yourself to a new outfit, a
favorite book or a much-loved meal.
6. Lay
off being your own critic. Yes, you will have challenging days and will mess-up
but stop criticizing yourself for every little thing that you do wrong. Start
focusing on what you do right instead. Never get into the habit of thinking the
worst before the best about yourself.
7. Do
not condemn yourself for how others have treated you or what they think of you.
Passing judgment comes from God alone, so if others have judged you unfairly move
on and hold your head up high.
What
other things can you do to improve your relationship with yourself? I would love to know what you think.
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