Confidence is the belief in one’s ability to
succeed. Looking confident plays
a part as well such as making eye contact and good posture. Confidence comes
naturally for some people, but for many confidence has to be learned.
A confident person has
healthy self-esteem for themselves and they feel good about who they are, as
well as their worth. They acknowledge that they are not perfect, have faults, and
do not overemphasize their weaknesses.
A lack of confidence
can be a result of many factors including: fear of the unknown, past failures, criticism
from others, lack of self-esteem, depression, trauma, betrayal or repeated
hurts by someone that you love, and being disappointed that something did not turn
out the way you hoped for.
Signs of lack of confidence:
1. Avoid doing certain things because you fear
your inability to cope or handle the situation.
2. Withdraw from certain people or situations who
tend to make you feel even more less confident.
3. Covering your lack of confidence by pretending
or hiding the way you feel.
4. Caring way too much what people think of you.
How to develop
confidence or regain the confidence that you once had:
·
Be well groomed.
Have your hair fixed and/or cut regularly, men shave regularly and women keep
your nails polished or trimmed. Give yourself permission to buy a few nice
outfits, and dress confidently daily. When you dress nicely you will feel more
confidently about yourself.
·
Replace
your negative self-talk and thinking with positive, faith-filled statements. You
become what you think. *
·
Stand tall
and straight, walk tall and with your head up.
·
Set small daily
and weekly goals and reward yourself when you accomplish these goals.
·
Focus on
solutions not your problems.
·
Smile.
·
Work on
what you can solve or fix.
·
Write out
your strengths and abilities and focus on those.
·
Practice
visualizing yourself as confident and able.
·
Develop
your skills through learning, reading and/or taking classes.
·
Exercise,
this can boost your immune system and your self-esteem as well.
·
Accept yourself,
your strengths, your weaknesses, your quirks, and all your imperfections. Love
yourself in the process of change and becoming better.
·
Forgive
yourself that you have made mistakes and let people down.
Developing confidence
comes from repeated practice and small successes that eventually lead to larger
successes. Think of yourself the way that God thinks of you. As a follower of
Jesus Christ, your confidence should not come from worldly possessions,
relationships, or titles but from whose you are-a son or daughter of the King.
Reflect on these truths:
God is within her, she will not fail. Psalm 46:5
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and
she laughs without fear of the future. Proverbs 31:25
Only God gives inward peace, and I depend on
Him. God alone is the mighty rock that keeps me safe, and He is the fortress
where I feel secure. Psalm 62:5-6
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For
additional information on disciplining your mind see my latest book release,” Disciplining your mind 30 days to a better
you.”
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