Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Counselor's Corner: How to Take Things as They Come




Do you tend to project what may happen in your future or fret about things that have already occurred?




→85% of what you worry about never happens and 15% of what does happen, you can handle better than you thought you could.



When you live in the future predicting the outcomes or live in your past regretting decisions that you made, peace leaves. If you have been through some difficult seasons, learning how to stay in the present moment can be challenging. When you have been through a series of misfortunes your brain becomes rewired to a negative default setting gearing your body up for any future calamities. Our bodies undergo chemical changes that prepares us for any further dangers. A lot has to do with how you perceive the dangers in your life. If you have perceived the stressors in life as dangerous, you will begin to react to future occurrences that are similar in the same manner.



Don’t be hard on yourself if your reaction to a threatening situation in your life was trying to figure on when it may happen again, or what you may have done to prevent the outcome. This is a normal human reaction to threatening or dangerous events. It is possible if you have had numerous trauma’s that you are in default thinking to expect the worst case. Taking life as it comes will not be the normal occurrence if you have been exposed to traumatic life events.



How to take life as it comes:



1.      Retraining your thought processes will be most important in learning how to take life as it comes. Daily renew your mind with the truth in God’s Word and let the truth of His Word soothe your aching soul.

2.      Speak daily positive affirmations over yourself will help to rewire your faulty thinking.

3.      Pray that God would help you to take life as it comes, and will bring healing to damaged emotions.

4.      Breathe deeply and exhale slowly when disturbing thoughts come to your mind about what if…Disturbing thoughts that play in your mind rev up your nervous system causing anxiety and tension. After your cleansing breathes (do at least 3 sets), pull that thought down by replacing with a scripture that speaks life to you. Keep notecards around that have these scriptures on them. There is healing in the Word of God.

5.      Set your mind that when future negative circumstances come you will maintain a faith-filled and positive mind. This can only happen if you learn to fully trust God in ALL matters.

6.      Adjust your mindset that understands that there will be “sunshine” days and there will be “stormy” days, and you cannot control when those days will occur. Learn to be thankful when you have a sunshine day.

7.      Take it one day at a time. Yes, you can plan and planning is important but also be mindful that life happens.



“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react.”
-Charles Swindoll


→How are reacting to life's struggles, trials, and disappointments?

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