WELCOME TO MY BLOG!
Stay a while and let's get connected. As you read my blogs my hope is that you feel as if you are sitting across from me talking with you and of course drinking a cup of coffee.
With God's help, I Provide hope and encouragement to women of faith through practical advice and tools. I blog about my personal experiences in overcoming trials, and I use my background in counseling to give tips and techniques to live a victorious life.
Subscribe to this blog
Follow by Email
Word of Encouragement: Counselor’s Corner: How to Stop Complaining and Become More Thankful
Life can be stressful and complaining can seem like a release to our stressful situations.
However, complaining is not only a sin but it affects our brains and our
physical health. Murmuring is a form of complaining that harbors a negative
attitude toward a situation. Sins of the tongue that spread negative reports
create an environment in which murmuring can thrive. A murmuring spirit will
jump to wrong conclusions. Murmuring leads to self-pity. Murmurers feel sorry
for themselves and focus on how they have been mistreated. Murmuring refuses to
recognize that God can conquer any problem, and refuses to recognize that God
may use negative circumstances to accomplish His glory on our lives.
Complaining releases stress and zaps our energy. Even
though we believe we are releasing tension when we complain it actually
releases a sense of sadness and a discontentment. Complaining fosters a
negative attitude, it draws attention to the negative aspects around us.
Complaining affects those around us, no one likes to hang out with a
complainer! Complaining never changes the circumstance. When we complain less
it shifts our focus on what is good. Gratitude can deepen as we focus on the
good and not complain.
If something goes wrong in our lives, our immediate
response may be to put a negative spin on it. When we complain to others about
our problems we are dumping our negative emotions on them. It is okay to talk
to a trusted friend or family member about a difficult situation that you may
be in, but this must not become chronic and it should always end with prayer.
Talking problems over with anyone should not become a habit or a way to unload
upon another person. Our complaints should be taken to God first. Venting and
complaining are different. Venting briefly
can be okay. Venting is short and should not happen repeatedly, while
complaining happens frequently and without any resolution.
How to stop complaining and become more
your thinking! See the good and positives in each situation that causes you
heartache and trouble in your life. Accept your situations for what they are,
leave those difficulties at the feet of Jesus and move on.
adaptable. Nothing will stay the same, change is inevitable. Your bad
circumstances will eventually change. Whatever is creating problems in your
life can’t last forever.
one day at a time. Live in the present moment. Stop living in the past with
regret and stop projecting the future with all the “what-if” scenario’s.
that we will experience trials and discomfort in this life. Not every day will
be difficult and not every day may be 100% good, but there is usually a balance
between the two. Don’t get flustered and the days that are not comfortable, but
keep pushing forward and realize without the rain, rainbows don’t come. If you
feel you are being pushed to your limit, step back and sit with the Father.
When you are sick and tired, the enemy will try and step you up to sin. During
these times, pull back and get before God.
judge others. You don’t know their story and why they act the way that they do,
so maybe there is a reason for their moodiness.
Everday say out loud or write in a journal what you are grateful for. Focus on what
went right in your day not went wrong. Magnify the positives of your day and
minimize the negatives.
can become a habit and like any habit it can be broken.
For the next 30 days do not complain about anything not even if someone ask how
you feel and you just want to download all your woe’s-don’t! Begin to see the
good in EVERY situation. Yes, this will be a challenge, especially if you have
some tough situations. Instead of complaining start becoming thankful for everything
good in your life. See how you feel after this 30 day challenge. There is a
good chance you will be less anxious, depressed, stressed and will have an
increase in peace and joy.
If you have been married for any length of time you
know that marriage is hard work. As with anything successful in your life
putting time and effort are keys to how fruitful those things will be.
you did not have the proper role models growing up to show you how to have a
successful marriage, but you desire to have a healthy marriage.
God has brought you together with your spouse the greatest investment that you
can make besides your relationship with God is your marriage.
Anyone can have a dull, lifeless marriage, but a marriage
that is thriving takes certain elements to help it succeed. If you planted some
flowers but forgot to fertilize and water those plants they would eventually
become lifeless and die. Healthy marriages take the time to nurture and weed
out anything hindering their relationship.
Couples striving for a healthy marriage should first
ask God to cleanse their hearts of any unforgiveness, anger, resentment or
offenses of their spouse. Staying angry or rese…
you focus on the most will grow. The enemy will try to get
you to focus on what is wrong, what is not working, and what is worrisome to
you. When you lose your focus on what is
true, what is right, what is lovely and what is a good report (Philippians
4:6), you will begin to focus on the opposite of these.
to focus on the good will be a daily decision. When the enemy shows
you something that is causing fear, worry or frustration, turn away and CHOOSE to focus on the good.
→If your focus has been more on the negative lately
check to see who you have been hanging out with, what you have been reading or
watching on TV, and giving your attention to the most.
→An unthankful heart can cause you to focus on your
wants, but a heart of gratitude will cause you to focus on your blessings.
Distractions come to sidetrack you and get you to
focus on what the enemy has brought in front of you. Keeping focus on Jesus means deliberately
fading out everything that pulls you away from the…