Skip to main content

About Me

My photo
Hope & Encouragement for Women

Daily Encouragement: Counselor’s Corner by Stephanie R. Reck, LMSW, LBT, BCCC :The Importance of Having Laser Focus in Your Relationship with Jesus

Where is your focus? Are you easily distracted?

A definition of laser focus is intensely paying attention to a single object, concept, person or activity to the exclusion of everything else.

A definition of the word focus is the center of interest or activity.

Synonyms for focus:
Focal point
Center of attention

If you don’t become intentionally focused on following Jesus, remaining obedient to His Word, and pursuing God’s destiny for your life-you will get distracted and pulled by the cares of this world. Are all distractions “bad” for us? No, but some things come into our lives that seem good, but if it pulls us away from putting God first in our lives, or our purpose-it’s a distraction!

Reflect and ponder: Would the words “laser focus” describe your relationship with Jesus? What cares of this world keep you from placing Jesus as your focus?

Counselor’s Corner:
Ways to become more laser focused in pursing Jesus and your purpose:

1.      Cut out the non-essentials in your life. Do you really have to check your Facebook, emails and whose texting you every hour? Technology along with social media can be one of our biggest distractors. Sidebar: I have a friend who recently discussed with me that her ex-mother-in-law called her 10 times in one evening and that she was very distracted by the non-stop calls as she was having her teenage daughter baptized that evening. My response to my friend: “Turn your phone off when you don’t want to be distracted!”

2.      Say, “No” to things that the Holy Spirit not led you to do. Stop “following the crowds” and instead be motivated by God not man.

3.      Get alone with the Father frequently! In our quiet place with God, He speaks! If you bring your phone, and other electronic devices in your time with the Father-you will get distracted! Just bring your Bible, pen, journal, and any worship music you like.
4.      Stop being so busy and always in a hurry. Slow down and work out a pace that makes room for Jesus-He is first!

5.      Write out your daily/weekly schedule, and stick to your schedule as much as possible. Place spending time with God first on your schedule. New research shows that making specific plans creates mental space, allowing us to avoid being distracted. Have you ever been around someone who lacks the ability to plan? What you get is confusion about what they want to do because they are easily distracted by having too much mental space. Yes, we are to “hold our plans loosely” as Scripture says, but there are benefits to making plans-it keeps us focused! Now, if Holy Spirit comes along and disrupts our plans, we should be obedient and follow Jesus.

Keeping focused on Christ means PURPOSEFULLY fading out EVERYTHING that pulls us away from concentrating on Him-this takes discipline!

Jesus should be our focus, not what we can do for Him; religious activities, or people.


Set your mind on things above, not on earthly things. Colossians 3:2

My heart is set on keeping your decrees to the end. Psalm 119:112

Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith. Hebrews 12


Popular posts from this blog

Counselor's Corner: Investing in Your Marriage

If you have been married for any length of time you know that marriage is hard work. As with anything successful in your life putting time and effort are keys to how fruitful those things will be.

Perhaps you did not have the proper role models growing up to show you how to have a successful marriage, but you desire to have a healthy marriage. If God has brought you together with your spouse the greatest investment that you can make besides your relationship with God is your marriage.

Anyone can have a dull, lifeless marriage, but a marriage that is thriving takes certain elements to help it succeed. If you planted some flowers but forgot to fertilize and water those plants they would eventually become lifeless and die. Healthy marriages take the time to nurture and weed out anything hindering their relationship.

Couples striving for a healthy marriage should first ask God to cleanse their hearts of any unforgiveness, anger, resentment or offenses of their spouse. Staying angry or rese…

Counsselor's Corner: Where has Your Focus Been Lately?

What you focus on the most will grow. The enemy will try to get you to focus on what is wrong, what is not working, and what is worrisome to you. When you lose your focus on what is true, what is right, what is lovely and what is a good report (Philippians 4:6), you will begin to focus on the opposite of these.

CHOOSING to focus on the good will be a daily decision. When the enemy shows you something that is causing fear, worry or frustration, turn away and CHOOSE to focus on the good.

→If your focus has been more on the negative lately check to see who you have been hanging out with, what you have been reading or watching on TV, and giving your attention to the most.

→An unthankful heart can cause you to focus on your wants, but a heart of gratitude will cause you to focus on your blessings.

Distractions come to sidetrack you and get you to focus on what the enemy has brought in front of you. Keeping focus on Jesus means deliberately fading out everything that pulls you away from the…

Counselor's Corner: Healing from Trauma

→What is trauma?
A deeply distressing experience, or a very difficult or unpleasant experience that causes someone to have mental or emotional problems usually for a long time.

Trauma can occur one time like death, natural disasters or accidents, or trauma can be prolonged and repetitive like abusive relationships, family with addictions, or combat.

Trauma that causes the most mental health issues are prolonged and repeated traumas and trauma that occurs from people especially parent-child relationships.

→What is a traumatic event?
Extreme stress that overwhelms a person’s ability to cope and overwhelms a person emotionally, cognitively and physically.

→Symptoms of trauma:
·Easily startled
·Sensitive to certain noises
·Feeling on edge
·Overwhelming feelings of guilt
·Intrusive thoughts of trauma
·Disconnected from others and difficulty trusting others
·Difficulty handling stress
·Emotional numbness

→Long-term effects of trauma can include:
·Substance and alc…