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Choose your Thoughts!
am not even up good in the morning and before my feet hit the floor, the
battlefield starts in my mind. I think to myself, “Let
me get a hot cup of coffee before the onslaught of negative thoughts starts.” I
have to CHOOSE to begin saying to myself first thing in the morning, “This is
the day the Lord has made and I will be glad and rejoice in it, or joy comes in
the morning.” I have to speak life over myself and I do not always feel like doing it. Get past your
feelings; otherwise, you could end up lying in bed all day or you could CHOOSE
to set your day negatively by the words you speak over yourself first thing in
Many of our thoughts are random, some are from the
enemy, some are from past experiences, and some are from God. You must
differentiate which thoughts are coming to your mind and from what source. Our
mind can also be passive, and that is not necessarily a good thing because a
passive mind can open the door to the enemy planting his thoughts into our
minds. The only sure way to win the battle in our minds, is taking every
thought captive and asking yourself, “Is this thought from God?” If it is not
from God, immediately replace that thought with God’s Word and faith-filled
statements. DO NOT ponder, dwell, or analyze your thoughts too much. In other
words, if you get a thought in your mind like,” Your such a failure,” you can
know immediately that did not come from God. So many times when we get a
thought like that we come into agreement with the thought and when we do that
we have now believed the lie the enemy was trying to get planted in our minds
to become a stronghold. A stronghold
forms after not taking captive thoughts that come into our minds and CHOOSING
to accept the lie as a truth. We must discipline our minds to take EVERY
thought captive immediately, because if wait to do so that thought will be
implanted into our minds. Once a thought gets implanted in our minds, it takes
a lot of work to remove that thought. Think of it like a seed that gets
planted, if you go and dig up the seed right after it is planted it can be
easily removed, but if you wait until that seed has grown and developed deep
roots it will take a lot more to uproot that plant. Our thoughts are similar,
once a thought gets “roots” it will take a lot more effort to dig up the roots.
We have to constantly monitor what is coming into our
minds. The enemy is clever and will disguise his voice to sound like yours, so
you believe the thought is coming from you and not the enemy. If we are not
thinking on thoughts that are lovely, excellent and praiseworthy (Philippians
4:8), we need to stop the thought immediately! Yes, there are times when
something will cause you pain or upset you, and your thoughts may really have
difficulty thinking about anything good or praiseworthy, but we can cast our
care on God (Psalm 55:22), and believe He will work out ALL things for our good
We have between 12,000 and 60,000 thoughts per day, or
35-48 thoughts per minute. That is a lot of thoughts to have in one day, and
research supports that many of our thoughts were exactly the same as the day
before! 80% of our thoughts are negative, but we have the ability to change
that. Negative thoughts are life draining. Thoughts such as, “should,” “ought
to”, “never, “or “can’t” are particular draining to us mentally.
is important that we are so filled with God’s Word that we will immediately
know when a thought comes to us that is not from God.
For years, neuroscientists believed the brain was
fixed and immutable but new research suggests that we can rewire our brains! It
is possible to reset our happiness and joy meters! I have always believed this,
but when I was in college studying Psychology I was taught that our brains were
hard-wired from birth and could not be changed. Research now shows our minds
can be set free from depression and even addictions by CHOOSING the right
thoughts! Science simply confirms what scripture has been saying all along,
“Fix your thoughts on what is true and good.” Philippians 4:8. The words think,
thought, and mind are used hundreds of times in the Bible. Proverbs 23:7 says,
“As he thinks, so is he.”
When someone has experienced significant trauma or
setbacks in their lives, it can cause patterns of thinking that are toxic.
These toxic thoughts can become automatic as one engages in life. These toxic
thoughts must be exposed to the healing and truth in God’s Word. It may take a
while for toxic thoughts to be completely removed in someone’s mind, but by
renewing the mind often in God’s Word and saying scriptures out loud that speak
the opposite of the toxic thought will cause a shift in toxic thinking.
But we can retrain our brain no matter what experiences
we have had! If you truly desire to be that joy-filled, optimistic, sunny
person, you can be no matter what your genetics are or your circumstances! If
you CHOOSE to take every thought captive and renew your mind with God’s word
for the next 21 days, you will have formed a new habit of right thinking.
are some negative thoughts that you need to “fast” from for the next 21 days:
·Anxious and worry
·Criticism of self or others
·Judging self or others
·Ruminating the past
·Dwelling on painful memories
·Thinking about your problems/difficult circumstances
·Thinking thoughts like, should, ought to,
need to, or can’t
·Focusing on what is wrong in your life
·Thinking negative thoughts that God does
not love you or bless you
·Thinking hopeless thoughts or believing
that everything will always be this way
·Believing you are rejected
·Believing you are not good-enough or smart
·Other people have it better than I do, or
they are more blessed than me
·Self-pit or being the victim
·Comparing yourself to others
·Caring what others think of you
other negative thoughts that you need to fast from for 21 days?
If you have been married for any length of time you
know that marriage is hard work. As with anything successful in your life
putting time and effort are keys to how fruitful those things will be.
you did not have the proper role models growing up to show you how to have a
successful marriage, but you desire to have a healthy marriage.
God has brought you together with your spouse the greatest investment that you
can make besides your relationship with God is your marriage.
Anyone can have a dull, lifeless marriage, but a marriage
that is thriving takes certain elements to help it succeed. If you planted some
flowers but forgot to fertilize and water those plants they would eventually
become lifeless and die. Healthy marriages take the time to nurture and weed
out anything hindering their relationship.
Couples striving for a healthy marriage should first
ask God to cleanse their hearts of any unforgiveness, anger, resentment or
offenses of their spouse. Staying angry or rese…
you focus on the most will grow. The enemy will try to get
you to focus on what is wrong, what is not working, and what is worrisome to
you. When you lose your focus on what is
true, what is right, what is lovely and what is a good report (Philippians
4:6), you will begin to focus on the opposite of these.
to focus on the good will be a daily decision. When the enemy shows
you something that is causing fear, worry or frustration, turn away and CHOOSE to focus on the good.
→If your focus has been more on the negative lately
check to see who you have been hanging out with, what you have been reading or
watching on TV, and giving your attention to the most.
→An unthankful heart can cause you to focus on your
wants, but a heart of gratitude will cause you to focus on your blessings.
Distractions come to sidetrack you and get you to
focus on what the enemy has brought in front of you. Keeping focus on Jesus means deliberately
fading out everything that pulls you away from the…