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Understanding Mental and Emotional Stability
Spiritual maturity and emotional maturity go
hand-in-hand; you cannot have one without the other. Emotional health involves
knowing your limits, and not reacting act of emotions to circumstances.
Everyone has limits, and it is wise to know yours.
Have you ever began your morning and said something
like this, “Today, I will not let the enemy kill the joy and peace I desire to
have.” Then something happens in your day and you feel emotionally drained.
What happened? Reaction to circumstances. The enemy set you up by “baiting” you
with people and circumstances that are difficult, stressful, and overwhelming.
The enemy hopes we will react in our emotions, because this will usually lead
us into sin. We are not to be led by our emotions and feelings; they are
deceitful and constantly changing. We will encounter trials, stress and
difficult people, and sometimes when we our “off-guard,” but we must take a
step back, go and pray, and be still and quiet as we wait for God’s
Some key factors that you are at your limit
Emotions are running high.
Stress and/or fatigue.
Lack of grace and patience.
It is important to know if you have experienced
emotional trauma and stress, so that you can heal and know how to deal properly
in certain situations. Emotional trauma and stress can happen once or it can be
a series of stressful events. If that is something you have endured, it is
likely you will have a high stress/emotional response to current stressful
situations. Is it hopeless? No, with acknowledging your hurt, facing the truth
of your limits, and totally relying on God’s help and healing; there is hope.
People are more likely to be traumatized by stressful
events if they are already under a heavy load. Childhood trauma can increase
the risk of future trauma, and the way we deal and process stressful events.
Emotional stress can be detrimental to your health and well-being. Find out
what is causing your mental and emotional instability, and begin being
proactive and make needed changes to your life. Your body is not able to defend
itself against emotional stress, which in turn triggers mental and emotional
Causes of emotional trauma and stress:
It happened unexpectedly.
You were unprepared for it.
You were powerless to prevent it.
It happened repeatedly (exposure to continued
It happened in childhood.
Mental and emotional stability has a healthy balance of all these components.
As Christians, we should make it a priority to have
mental and emotional stability, but we may need to first understand what is
causing it and what actions need to be taken to deal effectively with current
and past stressors. What has occurred in the past as a stressful event can
still cause us to react emotionally if we are continually exposed to that
stressor. Know your triggers and past hurts, and how they could still be
triggering an emotional response currently. If you experience frequent ups and
downs emotionally, it is time to examine why and seek God for intervention; it
is not His will for you to live unstable emotionally.
Having a better balance on your emotions will cause
you to feel better physically and to have an increase in energy. It is time to
ask yourself,” What am I expending my emotional energy on?” Remember, the enemy
knows what will cause you to react and to get upset. Having emotional stability
will enable you to peacefully and calmly go through difficult situations.
Emotional stability does not mean suppressing your emotions, but controlling
A hallmark of a mentally and emotionally stable person
is the ability to control one’s emotions.
Keys to mental and emotional stability:
First, admit your limits. What you can and cannot
handle. Be okay with that, and don’t compare what other people can endure.
Recognize the people that deplete your energy, are
unhealthy, and cause you stress. You may want to reevaluate your time and
exposure to them.
Don’t take on more than you can handle; whether at
work, ministry, church, or family.
Learn to say, “No,” when you are feeling stressed,
tired, sick, or just need some alone time with yourself or God.
Don’t take on other’s issues, problems, or stress. We
can pray for people, but we cannot do for others if we ourselves are depleted.
Do not react to your feelings or emotions. Pray first.
Exercise, eat healthy, and maintain a
trustworthy/healthy support system.
Journal by processing your pent-up feelings, and talk
to God about your deepest concerns.
Understanding that if you are mentally and emotionally
unstable, it is likely you have endured some emotional/psychological trauma and
stress, and that you need God’s help to overcome these damaged emotions. Don’t
be hard on yourself, if you have emotional instability, but recognize that
there is hope and a way to cope effectively.
1 Peter 5:8-9, Teaches us to be well-balanced and
temperate (self-controlled) to keep satan from devouring us.
Psalm 94:13, God wants to give us power to stay calm
If you have been married for any length of time you
know that marriage is hard work. As with anything successful in your life
putting time and effort are keys to how fruitful those things will be.
you did not have the proper role models growing up to show you how to have a
successful marriage, but you desire to have a healthy marriage.
God has brought you together with your spouse the greatest investment that you
can make besides your relationship with God is your marriage.
Anyone can have a dull, lifeless marriage, but a marriage
that is thriving takes certain elements to help it succeed. If you planted some
flowers but forgot to fertilize and water those plants they would eventually
become lifeless and die. Healthy marriages take the time to nurture and weed
out anything hindering their relationship.
Couples striving for a healthy marriage should first
ask God to cleanse their hearts of any unforgiveness, anger, resentment or
offenses of their spouse. Staying angry or rese…
you focus on the most will grow. The enemy will try to get
you to focus on what is wrong, what is not working, and what is worrisome to
you. When you lose your focus on what is
true, what is right, what is lovely and what is a good report (Philippians
4:6), you will begin to focus on the opposite of these.
to focus on the good will be a daily decision. When the enemy shows
you something that is causing fear, worry or frustration, turn away and CHOOSE to focus on the good.
→If your focus has been more on the negative lately
check to see who you have been hanging out with, what you have been reading or
watching on TV, and giving your attention to the most.
→An unthankful heart can cause you to focus on your
wants, but a heart of gratitude will cause you to focus on your blessings.
Distractions come to sidetrack you and get you to
focus on what the enemy has brought in front of you. Keeping focus on Jesus means deliberately
fading out everything that pulls you away from the…