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Counselor's Corner: When You Have Done All That You Can Do in a Relationship

Some relationships are difficult. Do you have a relationship in your life that you have done all that you can do to help this person, or tried mend your broken relationship with them and nothing has seemed to work? You may feel disappointed, frustrated, and you may feel like you failed this person. 
The closer you are to that person emotionally such as with a child or sibling, the deeper the wound goes. Maybe it is time to realize that you have done all that you can do to heal this relationship and that is time to heal your heart.
Relationships can be a great source of security, stability, and support, but strained and damaged relationships can be a source of stress in our lives.
Reflect and ponder: Are you frustrated in a relationship that you have been trying to fix and nothing thus far has seemed to work? Maybe you have tried to communicate and were meet with resistance or you have given excessively and what you gave was squandered.
Counselor’s corner:
·A healthy relationship is reci…

Counselor’s Corner:Taking Care of Yourself When You Have Chronic Stress

What is chronic stress? Any stress in your life that is persistent and ongoing with no-end in sight. Examples of chronic stress could be drug-addiction in family, emotionally unstable or mentally ill family, a disabled or sick child, and any caregiver role that you might be in. Minor stress in comparison can consist of more manageable types of stress such as car repairs, paying for your child’s education, or getting through the holidays with your in-laws. The difference with minor stress and chronic stress is that with minor stress, there is relief eventually coming. With chronic stress, you don’t know when or if relief will come. Chronic stress left unchecked can develop into PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder).

The first key in recovering from chronic stress is becoming aware. Becoming aware of how chronic stress has affected your life, and becoming aware of what action steps that need to be taken quickly before the onset of negative symptoms.
What are some of the symptoms of chroni…

Counselor’s Corner:Resilience: Getting Back Up Again After You Have Been Knocked Down

There are a few of us in life who have been knocked down repeatedly. Some of us have had to learn very early on in life how to fight, and some never have learned to get back up from the punches in life. For someone who has been under tremendous stress, trauma, and different crisis’ in their lives, developing resilience is key for maintaining and keeping good mental, physical and spiritual health. Without resilience, one breaks under pressure instead of just gently bending.
What is resilience? The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties. You bounce back swiftly after stress or difficulty in your life.
Research shows that the amount of resilience a person possess is a greater factor for determining success in life rather than your IQ. Some people have a natural tendency towards resilience, while others are bent more towards emotional reactions including being overwhelmed by difficulties in life. I believe some resilience is part of our DNA, but I also believe some resilience is lea…

Daily Encouragement: Counselor’s Corner: What is Tough Love?

Tough love is a term you may be familiar with if you have any experience with addiction recovery or with a rebellious child. Bill Miliken wrote a book in 1968 called Tough Love, and since then using the term tough love is applied when we need to be tough and loving at the same time. Learning to separate and detach emotionally from your loved one’s destructive behaviors is tough! As parents, we have an innate desire to protect our children, even if they are grown. The instinct to protect and defend our children never stops. To go against protecting and rescuing our loved ones, especially our children, can be emotionally disruptive to our mental well-being. Guilt and feeling overly responsible for our loved one’s poor choices can be crippling to our mental state, unless we have gotten to the point of letting go and letting God.  

Should we continue to rescue, fix, and solve our loved one’s problems when there seems to be little to no change in their harmful behaviors? To do so may stunt …

Daily Encouragement: Counselor’s Corner by Stephanie R. Reck, LMSW, LBT, BCCC :You Will Know Them by Their Fruits

We all have difficult people in our lives. As a Christian, it can be challenging to know how to cope with a difficult person-especially if they are a Christian!

A difficult person can be defined as one who repeatedly causes harm to self or others, takes little or no responsibility for their actions or lives, expects others to fix, solve, rescue, or help continually, they are not genuine but are known to be dishonest or not trustworthy, and uses manipulative tactics to gain what they desire.  A difficult person may talk a lot about what they are going to do, but you rarely see evidence of their talk turning into action. Difficult people rarely keep their word. You learn not to expect anything from the difficult person because they are not known for keeping promises.
A difficult Christian can be the fore mentioned listed and as well as have “bad fruit.” You will know them by their fruits they produce. The Holy Spirit produces the fruit of righteousness in terms of the character we have a…